Love vs. Ego

It occurred to me while reading an interesting little book by a local author, that he was right about a few things that I hadn't thought of before. Wow, there's an anomaly huh? Somebody thought of something I didn't? Just kidding. Anyways, I was reading the first chapter of his book, which was about love and energy and what we are all made up of, which is energy, and he brought ego into it. It's amazing how much we want to love and be loved in our lives, all of us strive after it at one time or another, and different types of love as well, but nothing gets in the way of love better than ego.
When you're fighting with your teenage daughter, and you know that you can't let her win, and that you have to be right, that's your ego. Maybe you're daughter has made some valid points in the argument, and maybe even bested you a few times, but you've got to keep going because of your ego. I realise that you are the parent, and what you say needs to be obeyed for your child's own good, but ego can still carry a fight farther than it needs to go.
This doesn't seem as obvious in relationships with your children as it is so much more obvious in our relationships with our significant other's. That is why i chose to use the example of the teenage daughter first. However, as far as romantic relationships go, it's just as difficult to deal with if not more so, because you can't pull the parent card, and just end up being "right" whether you really are or not, because you're dealing with a peer. Yes ladies, men are our peers, however inferior to us we think they act sometimes. :-)
Anyways, joking aside, I think that so many divorces could be prevented, and so much happier marriages could be attained if we could just put aside our egoes. Egoes cause us to be jealous, even when there may not be a reason for jealousy, but we think, "well, if he's off flirting at the bar with the guys, then I'm going out with the girls and we're going to get really wild." Most likely he's playing video games or poker or tinkering with something in the shop with his friends then out dancing and partying with a bunch of big boobed sluts. We just let our imaginations run wild with us sometimes, and can't help ourselves. We can't take the blow to our ego that he wanted to hang out with his friends for a few hours instead of going shopping for new bathroom towels with us, or whatever we're doing, it doesn't have to be something boring like that. We shouldn't take things so personally, I know it's hard as women, but they don't mean it personally, so they probably don't even realise we're taking it that way. Or they make us really mad, so we stab in with some comment that we know will be a hurtful blow to their ego, just to get even. We are always attacking each other, or trying not to let them "pull the wool over our eyes" because we'll feel stupid, or let them get their way, because what you want to do is "more important."
There are couples that are always fighting, and always trying to be "right" or convince the other person to see things their way. You often hear conversations that go "well, I think this, well I think that, well this is what I think we should do." The formula for these relationships started out with me + I = ego(squared)= lack of communication, which is the equation for disaster or divorce. If we just tried something more like:
1 cup patience
1 cup of understanding
2 cups of love
1 Tablespoon of you
and a tiny pinch of me for flavoring
then you'd be able to build a fantastic triple layered cake with love on the bottom holding up the cake, communication in the middle, holding things together, and selflessness on top because selflessness is close to godliness. Most people like cake better than math, so which are you gonna pick? The cake? Or the equation? You're ego? Or a happy, loving relationship?